“Non Violent Communication-Evaluative Words” Tool

Non Violent Communication (NVC) is a wonderful tool for successful effective and harmonious communication. NVC describes the difference between a feeling and a thought and the difference between a feeling and an evaluative word. In the english language these things often get all mixed up and confused with one another.

Check out the 3 tools below and see how exploring the definitions and use of feelings, thoughts and evaluative words can be extremely helpful when you want to communicate clearly and effectively with the goal of creating harmony with all people involved.

Evaluative Words 1

Evaluative Words 2


If you have any questions or comments about this “tool”, email Sharon at Sharon@SharonSanborn.com

“Non Violent Communication” Tools x 3

Communication is about expressing your ideas and thoughts as well as having them be received in the way you want them to be heard and in a way that others can hear what you actually are intending to say.
Communication begins with self-awareness. What am I feeling (see NVC Feelings Inventory below) and thinking? What am I desiring or wanting and needing (see NVC Human Needs List below) in a situation? NVC or Non Violent Communication (see http://www.CNVC.org) is a system to help us figure this all out. NVC is a great tool that invites all people involved to be assertive (as opposed to passive or aggressive or passive-aggressive) and to be compassionate of themselves and others.
Once we are self-aware and clear, we can make a request of others (a do-able, positive and specific request that invites a person to answer “Yes”, “No” or “Let me think about it”. Requests are not the same as demands, where the person “asking” something of the other person expects (or demands) only one answer of the other. The NVC way of communicating takes some practice (see NVC 4 Steps below). However, it  is worth it when we can speak effectively, harmoniously and successfully. Give it a try and see what happens!

NVC 4 Steps

NVC Feelings Inventory

Human Needs List


If you have any questions or comments about this “tool”, email Sharon at Sharon@SharonSanborn.com